How congruent are your actions with your values?
This is something I’ve been reflecting on lately as we approach the end of the year. I’ve set myself performance goals every year for as long as I can remember. Some I achieve and some I don’t. But why is that? Why don’t I complete every goal that I set my mind to?
I think it’s due to a lack of congruence between my stated goals and my internal values.
Integrity means congruence. Words and behavior match.
Are your stated values really your values?
The first thing to consider is the fact that your stated values may not be your actual values. They may be how you think of yourself, or even how you would like to be, but it is important to take a close look at your true nature and be honest with yourself during the process. Self-improvement is a worthy and admirable goal, however self-awareness is also a powerful goal. Perhaps you would be better served to play to your unique strengths. If you are good at something you should do it (within moral limits of course!)
Why do we fail?
New Year’s is just around the corner. Think back to the resolutions you made last year. Accomplished without an issue? Or are you in the same spot, just a year older?
The key is to set the right goals. Smart, achievable goals, with measurable results. If your goals aren’t being reached in a reasonable time frame then modify those goals to fall in line with your values, or work on your values to gain congruence with your goals.
Or maybe you just need to toughen up with yourself and get the work done. If you want to be tougher then be tougher. There is no secret formula. State your goals, make a plan to accomplish them, then put in the work.
Congruence is walking your talk. When I look at people that I respect the common theme is that they do what they say they will do. That’s integrity. I plan to take a page from that notebook this year and publicly state my goals for the New Year, then hold myself accountable. Doing your work publicly can be a very motivating factor!
What do you think? Do you set goals or do you think that it is BS? Is trying and failing better than never trying at all?